trapped in your own success?

You’re really good at what you do. You’ve established a solid track record. You’ve got all the credentials. It pays well (or well enough). But you’re no longer feeling the energy in it. You used to love a new week. A new challenge. Making something happen. Doing something well. Now.…

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blind spots

authenticity mirror

As I was driving the other day, I was internally venting my frustration over a person who could not or would not recognize that one of their behaviors was not only  getting in the way of their own success and growth, it also had a very negative impact on others…

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Perception ≠ Reality

Perception = Reality Well, not really. My perceptions feel real. And your perceptions feel just as real to you. The problem is that our perceptions are likely radically different. And it is very likely that neither of our perceptions are strongly rooted in reality. “We don’t see things as they are,” describes…

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human doing or human being

human doing or human being? “People aren’t ‘made’ by themselves or by anyone else: they are released to be what they always were but had never known they were.” Archibald MacLeish I’ve always been impressed by people who have created personal purpose or mission statements. Whenever I tried to craft…

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mental autopilot

We have what some describe as ‘mental maps’ in our brain. These maps are built from past experiences and we often use them like autopilots to navigate life. We probably all know the feeling of taking the same route home from work, school, or the store. We don’t even think about…

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chng

1 embrace life and change 2 copy

Change / chng.  It really should be a 4-letter word right? True quotes from people I know about times of change: What’s wrong with the way it is? Change is hard. I don’t want to change. What if I don’t like the change? I’m too (fill in the blank) to…

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when your life doesn’t fit in the box

boxes are for catching cats

there’s a dissonance when who you are or what you do doesn’t fit into the box You might encounter this when you fill out an application or a survey and you get to the demographics question and you’re some of this and some of that and checking other seems, well…

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something in me yet to be

There comes a time in life when you realize that where you’ve been is not where you need to be. It often starts out slow. You may feel oddly discontented although on the surface, everyone else would say that you must really be doing well. You feel frustrated by the…

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10,000 hours

10,000 hours is the time estimated to become masters at something. Not just good or excellent, but those people who do something with such flow and beauty, that it is hard to see where the person stops and the activity begins. 10,000 hours is a lot of time 3 hours…

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the dross of life

Psychiatrist George Vaillant, the analyst of the study that followed a cohort of well-adjusted Harvard sophomores for over 70 years found that those who aged well employed mature adaptations – altruism, humor, anticipating and planning for the future, exchanging immediate gratification for future rewards, and finding healthy outlets for feelings.…

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