the narcissist in your life

narcissism

According to the Mayo Clinic, “narcissistic personality disorder is a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for admiration and a lack of empathy for others. But behind this mask of ultraconfidence lies a fragile self-esteem that’s vulnerable to the slightest…

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level 10 response – part 2

level 10 response

A level 10 response to a level 2 situation is how a friend of mine describes those times when someone flies off the handle for what is seemingly a non-issue. It’s that semi ballistic, totally unexpected, jaw dropping, huhnhn ……..what just happened here moment. When that happens, I often need to tell…

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level 10 response – part 1

level 10 response

A level 10 response to a level 2 situation is how a friend of mine describes those times when someone flies off the handle for what is seemingly a non-issue. It’s that semi ballistic, totally unexpected, jaw dropping, huhnhn ……..what just happened here moment. Sometimes that person with the level…

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tending our own garden

tend my own garden

I like to fix things. And if I’m honest, I’d like to ‘fix’ others. But that’s an incredibly arrogant way of thinking – cause clearly I need a lot of fixing myself. I love it [insert sarcasm font] when I receive important messages in my social media feeds. Messages like:  …

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staring down evil

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Much of the world is watching in horror at the events in Paris tonight. We’re praying for those who were murdered and injured. For those who were targets but escaped. For the rescuers. For the police and other first responders. And for their family, friends, and all of France. I…

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what sustains you?

in her heart was love final

The world sometimes feels like a crazy place. I have found that focusing on the negative, only increases my anxiety and my own cynicism. I intentionally seek out the positive to keep me ‘filled up’. I created a personalized Facebook feed filled with encouraging pages. I watch inspirational videos. I…

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mental autopilot

We have what some describe as ‘mental maps’ in our brain. These maps are built from past experiences and we often use them like autopilots to navigate life. We probably all know the feeling of taking the same route home from work, school, or the store. We don’t even think about…

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the dross of life

Psychiatrist George Vaillant, the analyst of the study that followed a cohort of well-adjusted Harvard sophomores for over 70 years found that those who aged well employed mature adaptations – altruism, humor, anticipating and planning for the future, exchanging immediate gratification for future rewards, and finding healthy outlets for feelings.…

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the only thing that really matters

the only thing that really matters Psychiatrist George Vaillant is the analyst of the Grant study that followed a cohort of well-adjusted Harvard sophomores for over 70 years.  The study examined a somewhat seemingly bizarre array of physical, psychological, and social factors to try to determine what leads to a…

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the downward spiral of assumptions

challenge assumptions

The other day, I drove home pondering about what I wanted to eat that night. I was off work early as was the husband and so I assumed that we would head out for dinner. I had briefly mentioned going out before I left for work that morning. So I…

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