Earlier this year, I made a goal. A good goal. A great goal. A goal I really wanted to accomplish.
I made really strong headway for a couple of months and really enjoyed the progress. Then life entered in – full of opportunities, chaos, and the unexpected.
I’d see the goal every morning – it is on a picture ledge across from where I enjoy some coffee and quiet time every morning. And I’d think, “I should ….”
So I suspect many of you know what happened next. Low levels of ‘I should guilt’ – I made this goal, a commitment to myself, and I’m not following through.
But the reality is that “I couldn’t“. Not without significant cost to my self, my health, and my relationships. Thus the tension.
Today tho. Today was different. Today I had an epiphany of sorts. My goal is my goal. And even if was a bigger commitment to someone else, the same rules would apply. Today is a different day than when I made that decision. And the things that were important and necessary then are not the same things that are important and necessary today.
So as of today, I have thrown away the goal. I’ve let it go.
In case you’re wondering, I may still work towards the objective. But I will no longer have the timeline and endgame expectation. And if need be, I will let the whole goal go. Yes, it is and was important. But currently, lots of other things are much higher on the priority list.
I know I’m not the only one to get all wound up in these sorts of self-guilt trips. Perhaps you also have set a goal or made a commitment that is no longer sustainable. It is just not possible. Or it is possible, but only at a cost much greater than the return on investment or impact on you and others.
Perhaps it is time to consider. Is it time to let it go ….?