Perception ≠ Reality

Perception = Reality

Well, not really. My perceptions feel real. And your perceptions feel just as real to you.

The problem is that our perceptions are likely radically different. And it is very likely that neither of our perceptions are strongly rooted in reality. “We don’t see things as they are,” describes Anais Nin, “we see things as we are.”

Wow. We see things as WE are.

And self, just how are WE today?

Grateful? Happy? Curious? Encouraged? Reflective?

Or

Surly? Sarcastic? Cynical? Anxious? Stubborn?

we don't see things as they areTruth be told, the attitudes and past experiences I carry with me usually have a lot more to do with how I experience a situation than the actual reality of the moment. How I feel and what I focus on significantly help define how I perceive a situation. My thoughts matter.

Change your thinking, change your life.

We’ve all heard it before.

Sounds trite. Simple. Warm and fuzzy. But the neuroscientists agree. Our thoughts are so powerful that they can create a picture in our mind that is ‘realer’ than reality. Unless we intentionally examine our beliefs, thoughts, and feelings, our mind will sift through the facts, accept ONLY those that support whatever we already feel or believe.

Scary.

Who controls these thoughts and feelings that have been running amuck in my head like a pack of poorly behaved Chihuahuas? Unfortunately, I think we all know the answer to that one. The person responsible for my thoughts is, well, uh, me. Drats and rats.

I am starting to look at what I’m thinking. Asking myself some really important questions.

  • Why do I believe that?
  • Do I want to show up that way?
  • Where did that feeling come from?

Those are really hard questions and they can begin to surface some things that are really uncomfortable or embarrassing to acknowledge. It is sometimes hard slogging through the mental and emotional much I’ve accumulated over life.

But I’ve also begun to notice that those who seem to have the most wisdom and the most joy regularly ask themselves these sorts of questions …. and, very importantly, begin to make changes based on their answers. Their life seems more fluid – they get stuck in fewer ruts, seek out people with different opinions, are open to feedback, and they listen. They really listen.

I guess it is time for me to take some Chihuahuas through behavior training.

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